Jordanian society

Today my friend Marianna from Poland met some of her local friends who came to Amman from Irbid (the second biggest city in the country) for an AIESEC conference. Turned out that the guys are two of the most amazing and open-minded and intelligent local people that I have met so far. We had a very interesting conversation about sexual relations in Jordan (absence of them, that is) and sexual harassment and that kind of stuff.

 It got me thinking why is it so that it was actually in Christianity that was said, 'Ok, it's better if you don't get married (Jesus didn't have a wife, point taken) but people are weak, so you can get married but be careful with that' and so on, and so forth; whereas Islam specifically teaches that it's best for a man to get married if he has an opportunity to support the family and feed them all, etc. In fact, that's why we don't have monks or nuns in Islam. However, it turned out quite the opposite: Christian world is much more open to sexual relations including just regular relationships between sexes, not necessarily meaning sex itself, whereas the Muslim world is suppressing all the desires and even the slightest thoughts about intercourses or any other kinds of affairs which turnes into perverted harassment and total lack of understanding the whole situation and how to deal with the opposite sex. Here men don't shake hands with women, sometimes they don't even talk to each other because then people will think that this girl is easy and nobody will be willing to marry her. Or worse than that - a guy will have an intercourse with a girl and then just abandon her because she sleeps around and he doesn't want that kind of a wife, which in my opinion is just totally screwed up.

   I don't know how much it will take for the Jordanian or any other more or less Muslim society to change, especially now that we see the Islamists like the Muslim brothers coming to power in many Arabic countries, but I am sure that if there were more people like Mohammad and Nizar that I spoke to today, life would be so much easier and better, and not only here. We need Mohammads and Nizars like these in the whole world.